long overdue blogpost.
and warning…this is going to be personal. read at your own discretion. or don’t read at all. i don’t really care.
my mood is shit.
but i’ve been saying i’m fine.
i went to the Philly Trans* Health Conference and it was great…i felt like i belonged, like i had a place, and i understood things. people understood things (read: me) without me having to educate them. i didn’t have to ask them if they knew what binding meant because chances are, they did/do it or know someone who did/does it, too. or at least know of people who did/do it. (can you tell i’m trying to write this as politically correctly as possible?)
but now i’m back home. i don’t belong. my pronouns aren’t my pronouns and i’m in so much pain i couldn’t possibly explain it to anyone.
my therapist has told me that maybe i should wait a few years for top surgery. but why should i wait to be able to live? i need top surgery.
my mood is shit because i feel like no one understands me. except maybe J. and K. they understand. but besides them, i feel like there’s no one. i can’t talk to my girlfriend about everything because she doesn’t deserve this pain. J and K, i talk to them each in moderation because that’s all i can do.
i’m also getting D’s in my class and that’s not usual for me and so i feel guilt and shame. why am i not smart anymore?
there’s more but i should stop there before the hypothetical (and at this point very imagined, not literal) reader decides to really run away. then again, it feels like that’s what everyone does. so go ahead, be my guest. (here you can see my BPD acting up. it’s been doing that a lot lately).